We Are Okay

We Are Okay

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Marin hasn't spoken to anyone from her old life since the day she left everything behind. No one knows the truth about those final weeks. Not even her best friend Mabel. But even thousands of miles away from the California coast, at college in New York, Marin feels the pull of the life and tragedy she's tried to outrun. Now, months later, alone in an emptied dorm for winter break, Marin waits. Mabel is coming to visit and Marin will be forced to face everything that's been left unsaid and finally confront the loneliness that has made a home in her heart.
Publisher: New York, NY : Dutton Books, [2017]
Copyright Date: ©2017
ISBN: 9780525425892
0525425896
Branch Call Number: Y LACOUR
Characteristics: 234 pages ; 21 cm

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You go through life thinking there's so much you need. ... Until you leave with only your phone, your wallet, and a picture of your mother. Marin hasn't spoken to anyone from her old life since the day she left everything behind. No one knows the truth about those final weeks. Not even her best f... Read More »

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KCLSTeenLibrarians: Genres Oct 24, 2013

Thousands of miles away at college, Marin still feels the overwhelming grief she's tried to outrun. Now, months later, her best friend Mabel is coming to visit and Marin will be forced to face everything that's been left unsaid between them.

Struck by grief over her grandfather's death, Marin decides to spend winter break in her New York dorm room rather than visiting her San Francisco home. When her friend Mabel comes to visit, she's forced to face painful aspects of her past.

**Marin hasn't spoken to anyone from her old life since the day she left everything behind. No one knows the truth about those final weeks. Not even her best friend Mabel. But even thousands of miles away from the California coast, at college in New York, Marin feels the pull of the life and trag... Read More »

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MapleValleyEnumclawTeens Apr 27, 2017

Fantastic writing. If you like character driven books with beautiful language, read this. One of the best young adult novels about grief that exists. The characters and relationships between characters are rich and interesting. Love and loss so beautifully woven together throughout.


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SarahJaneCross
Jan 23, 2020

Oh my god this book was beautiful! I felt every second of grief and emotion that flowed throughout. I must admit that I began reading as a girl who likes girls and was REALLY routing for the girls to get together, but after I finished I made my peace with the fact that that wasn't the point. It was about the main character's emotional journey and her internal struggle to find some semblance of peace. I couldn't have asked for a better ending. I read it at work and I literally cried. It was so beautiful and passionate and hard. I could really relate in many ways as someone who went through depression and I almost felt a since of companionship and understanding with the main character.

I would recommend this book to people who are into deep literature. I would not recommend this book to people who are not prepared to deal with deep and hard emotional experiences.

Beautiful. Not my typical read, but I don't even care. So, so good.

Gina_Vee Jan 11, 2020

A few notes on this book... I started reading this book because Barnes and Noble listed it as a feminist read. Unless I'm missing something, this book is definitely not about feminism. It's about loss, grief, mental illness, love, friendship, sexuality, and family. I loved reading about how grief is portrayed in this book. Grief is such a complicated, life-changing stage in life, and the book does a great job of talking through those complications and what it looks like. I hated that the book didn't give me more on the relationship between the main character and her family. It sort of grazes over it in umbrella-like speech. As far as I can remember, not a lot in this book made me laugh. It's a pretty serious book. There were parts that almost made me cry though. Without giving any spoilers, there was a scene at the end of the book with Ana that hit me with such a force of tenderness, I almost cried. Overall, I'd definitely recommend the book to teens trying to understand grief.

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FPL_Brandi
Nov 18, 2019

A heartbreaking yet heartwarming story of love, loss, and the family we call our own.

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lynthebookworm
Oct 10, 2019

This is probably one of the most beautifully heartbreaking books I’ve ever read. I don’t know much about the kind of grief that Marin went through, but this book helps me understand it a little more. I would recommend it to anyone who either wants an interesting story or is going through grief and wants someone to relate to.

LPL_MaryW Jul 20, 2019

When Marin suddenly flees her southern California home for college in New York, she leaves behind everything but her phone, her wallet, and a picture of her mother. Her best friend, Mabel, is even left in the dust - Marin won't answer her texts or calls. Over winter break, Marin stays alone in her college dorm, awaiting Mabel's arrival for a three-day visit. A lonely tale of grief and love, "We Are Okay" tests the limits of familial bonds and explores what it takes to start over. A stunning, compact volume featuring queer romance and parallels to "Jane Eyre" - definitely worth a read.

“I was okay just a moment ago. I will learn how to be okay again.”
This book is slow in pace, but I loved that it was written slowly, in the middle of winter, set in a nearly empty campus in a dorm room. It adds to the lonely, isolated, and desolate feelings that Marin is grappling with. One day Marin gets up and leaves her current life behind and starts over at a college in California, not having spoken to anyone from her former life in N.Y. She's alone in her dorm and awaiting a visit from her best friend Mabel, to finally confront her past. This is a beautifully woven story of grief, acceptance, and learning how to move on. Be prepared to read something light to lift your spirits after the heaviness of this beautiful story.

_m1_ Apr 06, 2019

This is a slow moving, character driven book which only takes place over a few days, with flashbacks. It's all about the emotional turmoil the main character is going through, which is slowly revealed throughout the story. I really empathized with the main character; her struggles are presented in such an honest way. I don't normally like YA fiction but to me, this book isn't limited to teens only. Also the cover art is amazing; I actually thought it was a graphic novel.

OPL_MichelleC Jan 16, 2019

Beautifully written and very powerful. Emotionally complex.

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TEENREVIEWBOARD
Nov 01, 2018

We Are Okay written by Nina LaCour encircles towards relationships and emotions. Marin’s brain is only full of sorrow and incompleteness as she is always feeling lonely and isolated, especially after her grandfather’s sudden death. She left her family and friends unnoticeably and settled into her new life with just a wallet, a cell phone, and a picture of her mother. She needed a break. The novel’s message is that it is best to move on, as someone you love is not how they always turn out to actually be. I feel that in this generation, this topic is very relevant as now’s society is always about putting on a fake personality so someone will like you, at least from what I have encountered in life before. It is important to love yourself since YOU are the only person YOU need. Of course, in this case, it was more than just loving one’s self for Marin. She is queer, and being a member of that community means going through severe times of loneliness and isolation. On top of this, she had to leave everything behind due to the sudden death of her grandfather. She encountered many obstacles starting at such a young age. I am not queer, but the reason I enjoyed this read was that it was short, and managed to convey a very strong saying regarding self-love. It was just such a beautifully impactful piece of literature that has so much meaning behind it. Give it a read! 4 stars
@Bookland of the Hamilton Public Library's Teen Review Board

I chose this book initially for its beautiful cover art. Although I don't gravitate towards contemporary fiction, this breathtakingly, beautifully written book about love, loss, friendship, and loneliness, grabbed me from the start and would not let go until the end of time. If you enjoy books that are character driven and heartfelt, this is a good book for you. This is a very quiet written YA novel and It builds slowly, giving you only slivers of information to pull you along to give you the bigger picture. Morin's story is one of a person suffering from grief, which is something I know I can personally connect with. Her story is one of isolation, and mournful, but also hopeful. Nina LaCour is such a brilliant writer and this book feels so realistic and raw with emotion. "We Are Okay" is a fantastic read for those who love tougher topics in their YA novels and in this one, the story reveals itself slowly, page by page, just as the character emerges from the grief that envelopes her, the reader learns bit by bit what has brought her to this point. By the end, I couldn't tear myself away. Rating: 4 out of 5 stars
@PocketFullOfBooks22 of the Teen Review Board at the Hamilton Public Library

We Are Okay is the story of Marin's old best friend, Mabel, coming to visit her. Honestly, I didn't like the story. I thought it was boring. The pace of the book is very slow. It's mostly character-driven. I tend to prefer books that contain more adventure. But there were a few parts I did enjoy about it. Seeing the story of Mabel's grandpa unfold seemed interesting to me. Other than that, it wasn't that appealing to me. It was quite emotional at times, but I didn't really feel it. Other people might enjoy this story a lot, but I personally didn't. Just not my style. 2.5/5 stars
@endoplasmicreticulum of the Teen Review Board at the Hamilton Public Library

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MHanover10
Aug 19, 2018

This is a short book that is all about emotion. There is no action. It's slow moving and takes place over 3 days with some flashbacks. It really made me sad listening to it. No one should go through that kind of loneliness and heartache.

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Katiepie11
Sep 11, 2019

"It's a dark place not knowing. it's difficult to surrender to. but i guess it's where we live most of the time. i guess it's where we all live, so maybe it doesn't have to be so lonely. maybe i can settle into it, cozy up to it, make a home inside uncertainly"

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jmli
Aug 18, 2017

Surprisingly enough, this was the most relatable and enjoyable line for me in the book. It was honestly disappointing.
"The panties had a picture of the mascot across the butt. They were fun, even if only I would ever see them."

JCLChrisK May 04, 2017

"Tragedy," she says. "Heartbreak." She stops and then she makes sure that I'm looking at her. "Betrayal. . . .

"These are all things that change a person. If we endure them and we aren't changed, then something is wrong."

JCLChrisK May 04, 2017

There are degrees of obsession, of awareness, of grief, of insanity. Those days and nights in the motel room I weighed each of them against the other. I tried to make sense of what had happened, but each time I came up short. Each time I thought I may have understood, some line of logic snapped and I was thrust back into not knowing.

It's a dark place, not knowing.

It's difficult to surrender to.

But I guess it's where we live most of the time. I guess it's where we all live, so maybe it doesn't have to be so lonely. Maybe I can settle into it, cozy up to it, make a home inside uncertainty.

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jmli
Aug 18, 2017

Girl runs away after uncovering a dark family secret

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Aug 18, 2017

Sexual Content: Makeout scene

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