Stay With Me

Stay With Me

Book - 2017 | First American edition
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Yejide and Akin have been married since they met and fell in love at university. Though many expected Akin to take several wives, he and Yejide have always agreed: polygamy is not for them. But four years into their marriage--after consulting fertility doctors and healers, trying strange teas and unlikely cures--Yejide is still not pregnant. She assumes she still has time--until her family arrives on her doorstep with a young woman they introduce as Akin's second wife. Furious, shocked, and livid with jealousy, Yejide knows the only way to save her marriage is to get pregnant. Which, finally, she does--but at a cost far greater than she could have dared to imagine. An electrifying novel of enormous emotional power, Stay With Me asks how much we can sacrifice for the sake of family.
Publisher: New York : Alfred A. Knopf, 2017
Edition: First American edition
Copyright Date: ©2017
ISBN: electronic book
0451494601 hardcover
9780451494603 hardcover
Branch Call Number: FIC ADEBAYO
Characteristics: 257 pages ; 22 cm


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A young Nigerian woman is faced with jealousy and desperation when her husband's family brings a second wife into their marriage. Modern values clash with traditional expectations in this emotionally rich tale.

The desire – no, make that the need – to have a child is the driving force of this novel set in Nigeria at the turn of this century. A young couple, Akin and Yejide, are very much in love but they cannot get pregnant. When Akin's mother insists he take a second wife so he can be a father, Yejide ... Read More »

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May 08, 2018

Bailey's short list. Adebayo can certainly tell a story. However, this novel, narrated alternatively by a husband and a wife, raises the issues of polygamy and the necessity to have children, outside the context of patriarchy. The story does not really display any broader understanding beyond the events.

Mar 01, 2018

This is a book about a marriage, looked at in universal ways that many people can relate to but also from the more cultural views of a Nigerian couple. It deals with a lot of issues and will evoke many strong opinions and emotions in you when you read it. I thought it was quite good and I will look for more work by this author in the future.

Feb 07, 2018

Beautifully written, emotionally intense story of a marriage, set in modern urban Nigeria. Narrated alternately by wife Yejide and husband Akin, who share intimacies and betrayals as they respond in different ways to family and cultural pressures (including unwilling polygamy) and personal tragedies including parenting children with sickle cell. Ayobami Adebayo 's strength is her unyielding compassion for her characters. The best compliment I can pay is that I finished reading with highly conflicted feelings about one character whose actions really merit contempt. An enlightening portrait of extended family relationships. Particularly strong is Yejide's journey from unhappy daughterhood to romantic young adulthood to heartbreaking motherhood. Ends with a reunion and the hope of reconciliation.

liljables Jan 12, 2018

Stay With Me was one of my favourite works of fiction in 2017. I haven't yet read a book by a Nigerian author that hasn't been completely satisfying! Ayobami Adebayo's debut novel is a compelling narrative that deals with the many, many intricacies of marriage and parenthood within the context of 1980s Nigeria. This novel may be triggering for those who have dealt with infertility or infant loss, but on the other hand, it may be comforting to recognize your own experiences in this narrative. I look forward to reading more from Adebayo.

DPLjennyp Dec 12, 2017

Compelling portrait of marriage and a woman's life in Nigeria. Fabulous characters.

Nov 01, 2017

This is one of my favorite reads of 2017. The author is adept at use of duel point-of-view to tell us a complex story of the fracturing of a marriage. Add to that cultural expectations around family and societal norms. I learned a lot and also kept turning the page.

Sep 21, 2017

A fascinating depiction of marriage complete with loss, grief, betrayal, cultural influences: woman marries man who is impotent, culture demands eldest, most valued son conceives an heir: polygamy is norm: son's mother procures another wife for son to impregnate: son eventually kills 2nd wife: son schemes with his younger brother to impregnate wife: she bears 3 children: one dies of SIDS, the second of sickle cell inherited blood disorder: 3rd lives with sickle cell but mother believes daughter had died of sickle cell after separating from husband.
Well written, pace of plot, impotency, death of 2nd wife introduced within believable context.

Sep 02, 2017

This book made the list of Real Simple Magazine August 2017's Five Books that Won't Disappoint.


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